Tips to Help Stop Thoughts of Self-Harm

Written By: Misty Webb, MSW

Talking about self-harm can feel scary, but it’s important to know that you’re not alone. Many people go through this, and there are ways to help. Here’s some simple information and tips to get you started.

What is Self-Harm?

Self-harm is when someone hurts their body on purpose, like cutting or burning, often to deal with tough feelings. It doesn’t mean they want to die; it’s usually a way to cope with pain, stress, or overwhelming emotions. If you’re having these thoughts, know there’s help available. You don’t have to go through this alone.

5 Ways to Cope with Thoughts of Self-Harm:

Know Your Triggers: Think about what makes you want to hurt yourself. Is it stress? Feeling lonely? Once you figure it out, you can try to avoid or handle those situations better.

Distract Yourself: When the urge hits, do something to take your mind off it. Play a game, watch a funny show, draw, or take a bath. Even small distractions can help.

Talk to Someone: Share how you’re feeling with someone you trust, like a friend, family member, or counselor. If talking feels hard, texting or writing it down can work too.

Take Care of Yourself: Sleep, eat well, move your body, and spend time doing things you enjoy. Taking care of yourself makes it easier to handle tough moments.

Get Professional Help: A therapist or counselor can help you work through what you’re feeling and find healthier ways to cope. Reaching out is a strong and brave step.

You’re Not Alone - A lot of teens struggle with self-harm. Remember, there’s no shame in asking for help. You’re important, and there are people who care about you and want to support you.

For more information about how programs like counseling through California Youth Services can support you, please reach out to us directly at octeens.org or 949-303-9016.